When I first started as a companion, I did not screen or pre-book.

 “Hey, r u avail?”

“Yes in 30 mins”

 “Location?”

“ X hotel, x address. How long do you want?”

 “Hour”

“Ok see you in 30 minutes”.

This may sound ideal to many of you: quick and easy, no questions asked. What could go wrong? Well, for starters, allowing anyone with a phone number to enter my room and my body resulted in repeated bad experiences, a couple run ins with law enforcement, and took a toll on my mind and body. You may think those things don’t affect you as the client, but they do. A provider who is constantly having bad experiences is probably not going to be relaxed, happy, and enthusiastic. As the no-call no-shows, assholes, psychos, and legal troubles piled up, my mental health suffered, as did the quality of my service. I decided to start screening to improve my experiences – and yours!

So what is the point of screening, anyways? If you piss me off, I post your info on Twitter, right? Absolutely not. First and foremost, I screen because I like to have an idea of who I will be meeting. Whether it is learning your name and some introductory info or a brief chat with your reference, I make an initial judgement whether I think we will be a good fit. Just like you want to have a good time, I do too! My chances of doing so decrease if I don’t do my homework. Would you book with someone who’s ad is literally just a phone number – no name, no pictures, no social media, nothing to assess them by besides a phone number ? Probably not.

      Secondly, screening is like safety insurance. It is all too easy for someone to harm me and get away with it if I have no idea who they are. Some people become very bold under the cover of anonymity. By trusting me to know your identity, it makes it easier for me to trust that you have good intentions. As long as you don’t hurt me, I have no reason to ever tell anyone who you are. I know there is a trend with some providers posting clients' information publically if they cancel, don’t show up, or offend them. I would never do that; posting someone’s information because they pissed me off may feel good at the time, but it’s not worth the resulting loss of trust from everyone else. If I believe someone is dangerous, there are better ways of handling that situation then posting their info on my Twitter. If you don’t believe me, scroll through my feed.

       The most common rebuke I get upon requesting screening is “I don’t want my information out there”. So…you sought me out, contacted me, and are willing to come to a location of my choice, yet you don’t trust me to respect your privacy? If that is the case, how can you feel safe being in a room alone with me? If I am the type of person who would leak your information, what’s to stop me from violating your privacy in other ways? The reality is that the relationship between a provider and a client requires a healthy dose of good faith & a pinch of blind trust. I am trusting that you will show up, give me the donation, and not hurt me. You are trusting that I will protect your confidentiality and provide the service as advertised. If you can’t trust me to keep up my half of the deal, how can I trust you to keep yours?

       I understand that some people just aren’t comfortable giving their information to a stranger. (In that case you might want to ditch your smart phone, because everywhere you go and everything you do is creating data about you that is far from private!)  If anonymity is a requirement for you, understand that you are likely limiting the quality of your experience. Is it a given you will have a bad time with a lady who doesn’t screen and a good time with one who does?  No. But a lady who cares about the quality of the gentleman she sees likely cares about the quality of herself, her reputation, and her business. A common complaint from clients is that many providers lack “TCB skills” or “taking care of business skills” – communication, reliability, time management, etc. It’s a catch 22 – they want a companion who takes her business seriously, but not so seriously that she doesn’t allow strangers to show up after a couple texts. She may be out there, good luck. But rarely can you have it both ways: either you want a top notch experience and you comply with the requirements, or you remain anonymous and roll the dice .

       Another barrier to screening is the fear of blackmail. This fear is not totally unfounded; there are women who abuse the trust bestowed upon them. I am not advocating that you blindly send your info to every woman who has an ad. Do your research first, and use common sense. How does her ad/web page/social media look? Check out the comments on her page – does it seem like she has happy clients or are people complaining about getting ripped off? (Of course take anything you read on the internet with a grain of salt🙄) Is she constantly surrounded with drama? How is her communication, is she professional? Are her pictures up to date or have the same ones been on there for years? Usually you can learn a lot about a provider by putting in some time and effort.

Unfortunately we live in a world where some women are in desperate situations and do desperate things for money. It may seem like screening is an easy way to collect blackmail material. But let’s dig a little deeper - by requiring screening, I automatically reduce the number of gentleman willing to book with me, and thus reduce the number of potential clients. Often there is a waiting period of days or even weeks before we get together. Typically, a provider who is willing to wait to meet you or decline to meet you based on certain criteria is not in a desperate position. It is more likely that the person who wants you to come over right now, no questions asked, and will tell you whatever you want to hear to get you to do so, is in a position where she needs your money more than her safety. It’s unfortunate that this situation exists; it can also put you in a position where your safety is not a priority.

      Why is it such a “process” to book with me for the first time? You have to fill out a screening form and wait for my reply, it may be days before we meet. Why can’t we just meet up now? I have found that a waiting period has many benefits: weeding out timewasters, allowing me proper time to adequately prepare for our date, and protecting me from legal trouble. It is very unlikely that law enforcement will undergo my screening process, pass it, and wait 6 days for a meeting with me – too much work and uncertainty.  They would prefer to go for the “low hanging fruit” – someone who will meet them immediately, no questions asked (sound familiar?) You may not see how this affects you, but it does. A provider that allows you to show up instantly & anonymously also allows everyone else to do the same – how can you be sure an undercover officer isn’t inadvertently next in line as you’re leaving? (If you don’t believe it happens, trust me, it happens)

       Many gentleman who have declined screening have reminded me, “I’m trying to stay safe, just like you”. What they do not realize is that screening doesn’t just keep me safe, it keeps them safe too. A provider who is concerned about her own safety is more likely to be concerned about your safety as well. She plans ahead and anticipates situations that could be dangerous to both of you. She wants both of you to have the best experience possible and realizes to do this, she cannot see everyone . She is unwilling to compromise her safety for extra money. If you are hesitant to take me at my word, do some investigation. Go to the website of your dream girl. Maybe she lives in a big city, travels the world, and is hot behind your wildest dreams. Does she encourage people to book then and there, no questions asked? Now go somewhere like skipthegames, or another site largely dominated by scams. Find an ad that’s an obvious scam. Is screening required? As I said, nothing in life is black and white; there are exceptions to the rule on both sides. But there is a reason you don’t often see screening required on ads that are clearly scams. Scammers want to attract the greatest number of prospective targets in the shortest amount of time. They don’t care who you are or what you do. Requiring a process like screening that narrows down the number of applicants would not be beneficial to them.

       Screening has changed my business for the better. My time is spent with gentlemen whom I enjoy seeing. I have the peace of mind that I am not an easy target for predators or legal prosecution, making it a safer experience for both of us . Scheduling ahead allows me to live a well rounded life, and be prepared for my dates feeling sexy and well rested. All of this translates to a happier, more enthusiastic Karen, and a better, safer experience for both of us!

       Of course, no matter what I say, at the end of the day it is your decision whether or not you feel comfortable screening and I fully respect that . Keep in mind, my screening process does not necessarily need to include your full name – if you have a P411 account or have seen a reputable provider who can vouch for you, I will accept that for verification. Another option that allows you to get to know me better before screening is to book an online service. Yes, you are still taking a risk but risking $60 from the comfort of your home is a lot easier to swallow than risking hundreds to meet a stranger. It also gives you a chance to see that I am a woman of my word.

       I  also know there are people out there who deliberately seek out girls who are either new or in desperate situations, knowing they will do whatever it takes to make money and thus be easier to manipulate. If you’re one of those “men” and haven’t realized it by now, you’re in the wrong place. I have been there, done that, and I am grateful every day that I am no longer in a position where I need to compromise my safety or boundaries to survive. To any ladies reading this, I am always willing to  provide references & whatever help you need to keep yourself safe. My intention is not to judge anyone, only to spread awareness about the realities of our world. Be safe everyone! ❤️